In terms of education, each couple adopts a different approach which, in their opinion, would be the best for their children. Based on an individual ideal as well as an experience as a child, parents would do everything in their power to avoid "mistakes" committed by their own parents and try, as best they could, to save their children Experiences that they consider "unpleasant" or "traumatic". However, this overprotection could be detrimental to these little ones who risk becoming capricious and of a difficult character. So discover the 5 mistakes of education to avoid.
As they grow, the behavior of our toddlers evolves, and they begin to test our reactions and patience, in order to know exactly where the limits are not to be crossed. It is also advisable to charge them with some responsibilities adapted to their age, and to pose challenges to them that will teach them to face the different situations of life.
According to Emma Jenner, a famous British nanny who helps distressed parents and helps them deal with troubles that disrupt their relationship with their children, here are the 5 most common mistakes made by parents and which encourage children to behave badly.
5 Mistakes of education to no longer commit:
Fear of children
Or rather to be afraid of their behavior and the reaction that they will arouse in the entourage. For example, when faced with a child who insists on drinking in a glass other than the one he is used to, parents respond immediately to satisfy his request in order to avoid seeing him cry or Refuse to eat.
According to Jenner, this is a big mistake. The child should not be given the opportunity to believe that it is he who decides. There is no harm in letting him cry a little, if he persists in shouting despite your explanations. Parents should know that whenever they succeed by shedding a few tears or raising their voice, they will be convinced that it is the only means of communication and this will become an automatism: I want therefore to cry.
Justify their bad behavior
Some children tend to take advantage of the presence of a third party to make whims and urge their parents to bend to their will. Faced with such an embarrassing situation, they desperately seek to justify themselves by saying that "they are only children! ".
According to our Nanny, children are capable of many things that parents do not even suspect. So, instead of underestimating their intelligence, use it properly by communicating openly with your child and setting clear limits not to exceed. Treat it as an adult (or almost).
Do not let other people chide them
This does not mean that you will let your kids be the punching-ball of all and anyone. Rather, they are the people who come alongside them and see how they behave in your absence. Teachers, nannies and grandparents must have the right to steer your children and put them back on the right path, while using the proper methods.
Unfortunately, most parents do not tolerate a third party intervening in their child's education, and do not bother to understand the causes that prompted them to do so. In doing so, parents urge their child not to accept "authority" and to act as he or she pleases without fear of reprimand.
They are always at the top of the agenda
By instinct, all parents want to take care of their children, protect them and satisfy all their needs. Moreover, in their first months of life, children depend entirely on them for eating, sleeping, changing, and so on. An addiction that regresses as the child grows and acquires independence.
However, some parents do not manage to go beyond this stage and live only to meet the endless needs of their offspring. But what they do not know is that such behavior will exhaust them in the long run, and will make their children capricious beings who want more and more without ever being satisfied or happy.
Getting used to taking short cuts
When children are bored, hello nonsense! To keep their children quiet enough to complete a housework or a doctor's appointment, parents usually use electronic devices. For the good of your little ones, you must teach them to wait and have fun alone, without you being constantly at their side. So, instead of stressing because the lunch is not ready yet, ask your child to set the table, meanwhile. By controlling your protective momentum, you teach your child to be strong and resourceful.