In addition to strengthening the bonds of attachment of the couple and calories burned, the intercourse carries a point that is of primordial importance: the orgasm. Some get there easily and at all times, while others have to make a lot of effort to reach it. Moreover, women are the ones who suffer the most from the absence of it. To help them better understand this phenomenon Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a gynecologist and assistant professor at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York, gives 5 reasons that could prevent women from reaching their orgasm and how they could achieve it.
5 Reasons why women can not reach their orgasm
Your clitoris is not stimulated enough
The clitoris is the main actor of female orgasm. According to Dr. Dweck, 70% of women reach their orgasm after direct stimulation of the clitoris, instead of vaginal penetration. With more than 8,000 nerve endings, that is, more than those present in the penis, the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female body and the only part responsible for desire. It is therefore important to give it all the attention it deserves and to stimulate it by using the use of toys. It is also advisable to choose positions that allow simultaneously, penetration and stimulation of the clitoris, for an orgasm even more upsetting.
Your clitoris is too stimulated
As mentioned above the lack of stimulation of the clitoris prevents orgasm. But what many people are unaware of is that over-stimulation will have the same inhibitory effect. Indeed, several women feel blocked because their partner stimulates their intimate part in a way too much too much or just because they are too sensitive. In this case, it is advisable to ask the partner to have the hand less heavy and to go there more slowly.
You suffer from anxiety or depression
Anxiety and depression are two evils that anyone can suffer. By disrupting several mechanisms in our bodies, they greatly reduce the capacity of the person suffering from it to feel desire or pleasure. In addition, antidepressants generally prescribed to treat them often have negative side effects on libido, since they influence chemical neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine (noradrenaline), all of which play an important role in the response And orgasm.
Thus, to be able to restart your libido and to facilitate your access to the orgasm, it is recommended to speak openly to your doctor who will be able to adapt the doses of the antidepressants used. Above all, do not do it on your own.
Your hormonal disorders
Estrogen, progesterone and testosterone are the three hormones that govern libido and orgasm in women. When their levels are changed by taking a contraceptive pill or perimenopause or even menopause, this is reflected by a libido that affects the bottom, a decrease in the desire to initiate or participate in intercourse and even less Make the effort to reach orgasm. As with the previous case, it is also advisable to seek the advice of your gynecologist, so that he can advise you on the contraceptive method best suited to your case, and why not offer you a treatment to stabilize your hormones.
You do not have the head to the frolics
Reaching her orgasm while thinking about all the tasks we still have to achieve, is not the best thing to do. Indeed, Dr. Dweck says that for women, most of the response happens in the brain. So to reach orgasm, it is essential for them to concentrate on the actions in progress and savor every moment, in order to be able to move to the next level.
Moreover, Dr. Dweck compares this mental activity with that of conscious nourishment which consists in activating and using his five senses to taste his meal. Thus, focusing attention on the soft caresses of her partner and being carried away by her fantastic prowess would be the door that would inevitably lead to orgasm.