When the couple's life turns sour, separating can sometimes be a real dilemma. You close your eyes on those things that are shocking you, you want to give him a second chance, you are afraid to remain alone even if you die of desire to take the key of the fields. Tell yourself that when the relationship is at a standstill, you do not need to apologize.
An infidelity more, a dispute too much, an inadmissible lie and then a burst of blows. Stop there! breakout is a matter of survival, at the risk of living in the shadow of yourself, in anxiety and fear to maintain a toxic relationship. You have to know how to put your finger on what's gone wrong and decipher the signs that show you are in a relationship that is doomed to failure, if it is odious, violent, manipulative, deceitful, dishonest. Run away !
He makes you sad
The magic of the beginnings disappears, the weather of your couple displays a morose time. No romantic weekend or discussion seems to revive your relationship. If you are annoyed, you are anguished, degraded, despised and your couple is only synonymous with anger, stress, boredom, contempt, there is no doubt. This is the point of no return, you are about to break through weariness.
He is possessive, manipulative and sickly jealous
It may be flattering to live with someone who is slightly jealous and possessive. But from there to consider you as his thing, that he can lead to the wand. He lays down limits and rules that only arrest him. He makes you emotionally blackmail, isolates you from your family, and even dares to forbid you to see your cousin on the pretext that he does not smoke him. A simple smile to the neighbor of the top and it is the war, a lipstick more visible and it is the interrogation. Gone are the days when you could put things in perspective. He is no longer a companion but an executioner with whom you share your life, impossible for him to envisage a couple life in a positive light. This control is a sign that it has no respect for your person and that this can quickly degenerate into moral harassment.
Moreover, it is disrespectful, odious and humiliating towards people, in the restaurant as in the street, prudence! You will end up paying for it sooner or later. Leave it, you will be more relieved.
He is violent
Nearly one woman in four has been at least once victim of physical and / or psychological violence on the part of her spouse. The cycle of violence occurs in a couple without warning. The manipulative spouse is gentle and affectionate at the very beginning of the relationship in order to gain control over his partner, once certain of having acquired it, the first disturbing behaviors appear. It is then that the infernal circle of violence begins. Do not neglect the warning signs, do not allow yourself to be touched or touched and above all do not be of those who are afraid of reprisals or that the shame prevents to break. Blaming, even threats are part of the modus operandi of the plated. Accept the end of the story.
He has a bad influence on you
If your partner is addicted to alcohol or drugs, or you have friends who are dubious, you have tried to help him, but he insists on not wanting to change, it may be time for you Ask how you ended up in such a destructive relationship. At your side you feel safe, fulfilled and confident in your future? If the answer is no, no need to draw you, you know what you have to do. You do not care about the judgments of your entourage, you are neither selfish nor ruthless, they know nothing about your investment in wanting to change things. If being insensitive is saving his skin, then be it!
He cheats on you
Why is the breakup necessary? Because infidelity is an insidious scourge. It's a direct big red card because if you forgive these repeated infidelities, you send him an indulgent signal "you deceive me and it's enough to lose me but I know that you only like me ...", while you are Supposed not to override