"It is he, it is the good! ... Finally, I hope ..." In the ephemeral unions that are once tripled by a divorce, one can not afford certitudes in love. Who would be better placed than a married couple for more than 30 years to give you advice in love? These couples reveal to you the ingredients that have constituted in their case the recipe of great love in the long term.
Your love is unconditional love
"After 39 years of marriage, we spin the perfect love, my spouse continues to bring out the best of myself, it inspires me as much, makes me evolve and laugh like nobody else. When there is love, the presence of the other is vital, it gives you back fishing and makes you grow wings. My dream was to travel the world and I discovered in my spouse the same aspirations. It was the trigger. After so many years of marriage, one always feels pleasure in crossing the world, never one without the other. We adopted an 8-year-old girl and then we gave her a little brother, we set up fruitful business together, we made money, went around the world. And we are always inseparable. "
You share the same values and visions of life
"With Julien, since our academic years, we share the same values on humanitarian issues. I fell in love with this man so affectionate with the children, I knew right away that he would make an admirable dad. It does not matter that he is not as picky as me on some details or that he is pathologically disorderly. There is a tendency to seek perfection, and one forgets the essential: to be on the same wavelength and to have common soil. "
You swim in happiness
"If I had to do it again, I would marry the same man. It is the perfect romantic, full of attention, which has always maintained the euphoria of the beginnings and cultivate our love everyday even after 43 years of marriage. He is always as patient as I go on doing the showcases, he likes to surprise me by buying me small presents and slipping them into the most unexpected places, he knows how much I like it. After all these years of common life, we always love each other! "
What does not look like can be assembled
"We are quite different, my husband and I, but we assume our faults. If we are together well, it is because we love each other in a global way. My husband is booked and had a very strict education. I am Italian and the least we can say is that it is not always the dolce vita. We quickly realized that it was useless to want at all costs to bring the other into a mold that is not made for him. It's just illusory and vain. It is only love that holds. "
You worship yourself
"It was instantaneous thunderbolt. I knew I had fallen on the rare pearl. We got married 10 months after our first meeting. If our relationship lasts, it's largely because my husband is smug at me. He has this comforting aura. He is and continues to be my biggest fan, he supports me and believes in my professional projects. At the slightest doubt, he is there to restore confidence in me and pull me up. "
You support yourself in your most exaggerated passions
"When I met my wife, I was a paratrooper. The kind of guy to go faster, higher, farther and never lack of stimuli triggers. My daredevil and adventurer side never put off my wife for that. I even managed to introduce her to certain activities of the extreme, she who was the antipodes of my universe. If she does not accompany me on my adventures at the Indiana Jones, she supports me no matter what happens. She understands that I am a rebel who lives alive with adrenaline rushes, just for that I love her madly. "
You feel like you've always known each other
"I met my soulmate unexpectedly and unexpectedly, one evening when I crushed black, after a stormy break, I wanted to drown my grief in a bar and this is where my current husband approached me. I was not in the habit of talking to strangers or being accosted by them.
But that evening all my good principles had disappeared. We ended up at the same table, drinking and talking. I felt like talking with a long-time friend, and I even accepted without blinking that this perfect unknown brings me home. A little voice said to me, I relied on my intuition and I never regretted it. "