Great love does not mean that everything is always rosy. According to Dr. Barbara de Angelis, we do not become brave by being happy every day. We become it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity. The same applies to romantic relationships. We consider the ideal couple as two people riding towards the setting sun. But in general, it is rather the reverse, even with regard to the so-called "perfect couples".
According to psychologist Jed Diamond, there are 5 main phases in almost every relationship. Some of these steps are enjoyable, but others are less so. If your partner and you manage to successfully take these steps in a healthy way and cope with the tension successfully, an even stronger and lasting love will follow.
Phase 1: falling in love
Oh, the euphoria of falling in love, a sensation that many of us have already known. Thinking of the other person, happiness, desire and a mixture of powerful hormones control body vote and mind at such times.
However, this phase has its disadvantages; Your heart dominates your skeptical mind, and the hope that a person is the embodiment of your happiness can override your sense of caution.
Phase 2: Being a couple
This step can occur over a period of a few weeks, months or even years, depending on the relationship. Your lives begin to mix, you may move in together, marry, and even have children during this time.
The sensation of "head in the clouds" has turned into joy, unity, desirability, and protection. The mere feeling of falling in love has become something tangible and real. The more you get to know this person, the more the feeling that he is "the good / the good" settles comfortably in your thoughts.
Phase 3: disillusionment
So you hoisted the sails, went off, and everything went very well. Well, get ready, because the waters will begin to move. In this phase, you know your partner as your pocket, so well, in fact, that it becomes predictable. And you're afraid he'll be bored.
You feel that the irresistible emotions you felt before will dissipate. Many couples take a break during this stage, or conclude that their love will not last and separate. Any effort to revive a breathless relationship will seem futile.
Phase 4: Create a lasting relationship
Think of your relationship as if you were running a marathon, and you catch a cramp to the side. In the beginning, it is very small, then ends up transforming into a pain that can not be ignored. But you know that if you slow down, you will not find your second breath.
You know the easiest option is to give up, but you also know how happy you will be if you squeeze your teeth for now. So you keep running, accepting this painful sensation until the cramp disappears. And when she goes, it's just ecstasy!
Phase 3 of disenchantment can last a long time, but if you pursue your relationship, it is a real chance to test your love. Accepting and loving your partner's flaws will free your mind of all the uncertainties you have had. It is a period of understanding and consolidation for both of you.
Phase 5: join forces to change the world
The last phase gives rise to a crucial revelation on your couple. From now on, you fully accept each other and you have faced your faults; You realize that the link you sealed can create and bring something great to the world. Now there is a more important cause at stake, and you can use your relationship to conquer the world.
Love is certainly a confusing thing, but when it lasts, it can change the course of a life. Knowing how to build and maintain a healthy and strong relationship is essential to getting to know you and know the world around you. We wish you every success in every phase of your relationship in the future.