Some parents do not know how to act to educate their child, they feel unable to understand sometimes what he expresses and do not know how to channel his energy. An overly energetic child has trouble concentrating and listening to his parents. But some parents make the mistake of spoiling their children, they allow them a lot of things and give in to all their whims.
The education of a child has never been a long calm river. Parents have a primary responsibility to bear, which is to lead their children to the adult state. To achieve this, the child must feel that his parents are interested in him and protect him. They can spoil it but not too much because excess is never good. Indeed, the mission of parents is to find and succeed in maintaining a happy medium.
In recent times, more and more parents have resigned. This of course impacts the education of children who become capricious aggressive, disrespectful towards everyone including their parents.
To avoid falling into this scenario, here are 5 mistakes you should not make if you want to have well-behaved children.
These 5 behaviors were featured in Emma Jenner's "Take Home Nanny" show, which airs on TLC, and in which she also talks about the importance of parents' expectations of their children.
The 5 mistakes made by parents today resulting to their children’s bad manners:
1. You are afraid of your children
Example: If a child wants to drink milk in another cup than his usual cup, parents immediately start looking for another cup instead of ignoring the request. They fear that their child will cry or refuse to eat.
Your child should not order you. You must let him cry as much as he wants and stand aside to avoid hearing the sound of tears, he will stop by himself, but never give in to all his whims.
2. Justify the wrongdoings of your children
If you justify their misbehavior and tantrums in public by saying, "This is just a child," you are motivating your children to continue to behave badly and be irresponsible.
Children are able to do much more than their parents can expect. You have to explain things to them, correct them and stop them from doing everything that goes through their heads.
3. You do not let others scold them
In school, teachers and teachers could scold our children when they behaved badly. Nowadays, this is no longer the case, because if ever a teacher tries to reframe a child, parents will tend to get angry.
If you do that, you basically tell your children to behave badly and that neither you, nor the teacher, nor the head of the school would do anything to stop them.
4. You give them too much attention
Parents tend to overprotect their children or do things in their places: this behavior does not promote their development; this maintains it rather in a state of dependence. It will therefore be necessary to let them learn to become autonomous, but keep an eye on them.
Empathy causes some parents to focus solely on each other and literally forget themselves. They take everything too much to heart and vicariously live the daily lives of their children. Stress, lack of sleep or exercise, or simply other recreational activities, overly empathic parents tend to put aside their own health for the benefit of children.
5. Parental shortcuts
Today, parents often resort to a series of shortcuts to prevent their children from getting bored. They keep buying them electronic devices when they want to occupy them at a doctor's appointment, or on board a plane, or while they cook
You must teach your children how to be patient, when they should have fun on their own, to develop their imagination and do manual work beneficial to their development.
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