Children come into the world by being completely harmless, the soul quite pure and perfect. They are then under our full protection and responsibility. This means that every time you make a bad decision, you risk causing an injury that will make it impossible to remove the scar. And it is for this reason that if you have decided to deceive your partner, know that you have also decided to destroy the lives of your children.
It's one of the worst things to do when you're a father / mother and you're supposed to be responsible and really cope with the problems of life. There are therefore 7 disastrous impacts of infidelity on children that must be noted.
The children will probably make themselves future cheater spouses
According to Ana Nogales, a clinical psychologist: "55% of children from families where one or both parents were cheater also end up becoming cheater in adulthood. "
You are their best example, and in their very young mind, everything you do is good. Teaching someone that infidelity is acceptable behavior by showing them an example is like teaching a 2-year-old to consume substances like alcohol or drugs.
They live the worst kind of betrayal that a human being can experience
Betrayals from friends, spouses or more distant relatives do not hurt compared to those of a parent. It is therefore not normal for children to learn to live with treason because they do not have the ability to understand a parent's betrayal.
For a child, betrayal is tantamount to betrayal of the entire family and all of their future dreams. It is the greatest fear and uncertainty that a human can feel. If you betray your partner, what would prevent you from betraying your children?
They develop an excessive fear of abandonment
The children realize that the parent who suffered the infidelity did not deserve this abandonment or betrayal because simply no one deserves it. Thus, children from parent’s infidelity grow up with a feeling of insecurity and develop a deep fear of abandonment. This will have a huge impact on their future. Once adults, they will tend to repel all those who express their love, because they will fear losing them overnight.
Children learn to be wary of everyone
According to the Huffington Post, 75% of children with Parent’s infidelity develop abnormal and excessive mistrust. That is, they are so wary that they find it impossible to have a healthy and lasting relationship with anyone.
They do not believe in love
80% of these children do not believe in love once they have reached adulthood. This means that they develop destructive behaviors when it comes to love. It is extremely difficult for them to believe in their ability to one day have a loving family. Many of them engage in short, casual relationships, panic about engagement, and sabotage relationships when they are afraid of heartbreak.
They will have to choose their side
This is something that happens in all divorces. Children feel obliged to choose one of their parents. What many couples fail to understand is that the presence of both parents is extremely important to the lives and development of their children.
Damage remain forever
The damage of infidelity does not begin the day the child learns treason and does not end with the separation of his parents. This betrayal will change the whole family dynamic, forever. The damage caused is indisputably incommensurable.
If you have a family, think about it a million times before deceiving your spouse. Remember that by doing this, you are comparing a simple adventure to the unconditional love of those people who love you the most in the world, far beyond anything you could imagine: your spouse and your children .