Marriage is one of the most important connections a person can make in his life. But in a marriage things can sometimes not work well even when you're married to the love of your life. And as we all know, certain behaviors or habits can compromise that connection and destroy it forever. Both women and men share responsibility for this failure. But on the men's side we have drawn up a list of the six ways in which they destroy their marriage.
Underestimating small gestures
Marriage requires work and commitment on the part of both partners. Women are by nature more romantic than men. Most of the time, they make small gestures that allow their relationships and their marriage to last in time. In addition, they are always on the lookout for means and small gestures to please their partner.
Over time, some men neglect and forget to realize this effort. It's easy to remember a birthday, but small gestures of love show attention and consideration. That's what makes them so much more valuable than a surprise birthday party or an expensive gift.
Do not worry about his insecurities and doubts
Women are complex and always read between the lines. When you are married, to calm down your insecurities, pay attention to what she is trying to tell you verbally or by little clues. If she does not feel confident about her appearance, hold her hand, look into her eyes, and tell her that she is the most beautiful woman you've ever seen. This will give him peace of mind. Make her feel that you care about the things that worry her and the thoughts that keep her awake at night. You are united for better and for worse after all.
Let anger seep
Anger is the most natural of all human reactions. When you are married, you can not always be at your best. It is perfectly normal to be angry sometimes. Having a fight with your wife because you have had a bad day at work will not help your relationship. But channeling your anger in the right way is the key.
Women know when their man is disturbed and it is impossible to hide such things from them. So they feel that their partner does not consider them worthy enough to help.
Rushing into marriage
Say you met someone and fell head over heels in love with each other. The relationship led to a marriage quickly. A few months later, you realize that she is not the same person you married. The truth is that both of you had not changed but you did not take enough time to get to know the real person you were marrying.
Never rush into marriage. Marriage is a long-term commitment and some men make this decision without thinking.
Never say "sorry"
Conflicts and disputes are inevitable when you are married. The trick is to make sure you never let them go too far to get out of control. No hassle is worth destroying your marriage, especially when it comes to small issues. Instead of trying to gain the upper hand or having the last word, just talk, ask for forgiveness and forget the past.
Apologizing means that you are ready to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage alive. Some men think, wrongly, that if they apologize, it will hurt their pride and virility. All that it does is that your wife realizes she has a man with whom she can bear all the burdens.
Try to "fix" it all the time
If a man is aggressive and forces his wife to change, she will feel less secure. She will feel that someone is modeling her and stealing her freedom.
The love and commitment of her man should make her want to become a better version of herself and not another person. Instead of focusing on his flaws and imperfections, he must devote his time and energy to supporting his efforts in life and helping him improve. Marriages collapse under constant criticism and permanent judgments.