One of the steps in a relationship is the formal engagement through marriage. During the latter, the future spouses undertake to take care of each other, for the better and for the worse, in wealth and poverty, in health and illness and to be faithful. But at the time of divorces, more and more infidels are born.
Between the new means of communication to seduce and the rise of the love of one evening, it is complicated for people having a stable relationship to understand the infidelity of the other. So, here are some new explanations from the psychotherapist and Professor Todd Creager to clarify the reasons for an infidelity!
Childhood and the impact on fidelity
According to him, childhood would impact the functioning and behaviors of the adult, especially about fidelity. Indeed, an attentive mother who calms an anxious baby by touching him, giving him food or changing his diaper at the right time helps him regulate his emotions. In addition, this same mother is able to stimulate the child when he is in a state of boredom, speaking to him in an enthusiastic and affectionate tone. Moreover, the baby often reacts with a smile and shows signs of excitement. This regulation of emotions is cut in two, to calm or stimulate it.
Thus, the more the child has parents able to regulate their emotional state, the more he develops psychological and neurobiological mechanisms that allow him to self-regulate himself.
As a result, adults who lack this ability to regulate, due to lack of parental attention or because of a tumultuous childhood, will tend to be unfaithful. Indeed, they will use the dersire feeling as a way to temporarily relieve their anxiety and conversely, in order to stimulate their platonic love life, they will resort to deception.
Regulate emotions in adulthood
It is therefore necessary, to avoid being able to deceive his partner, to learn to regulate his emotions as an adult. Some people find it difficult to identify and express their feelings, while others do not manage to manage their emotions, which overwhelm them and prevent them from living a healthy married life.
So to successfully regulate your emotions when they are too strong, some habits are to be taken as:
Breathing because deep breathing allows you to focus on yourself and focus on something other than your emotion. Indeed, breathing has a liberating effect because at each expiration, it is the emotion that goes away.
Go out walking, especially when the breathing has not acted enough on the emotion. Indeed, the walk allows to evacuate all the tensions while practicing a physical effort which allows to relax the muscles, until then tense.
Practice criticizing negative thinking, a unique technique to regulate one's emotions including anxiety. It is simply a matter of criticizing the fear and anguish we feel in order to rationalize them and therefore to use our logic and our reason.
Anticipating emotions allows, as well as preparing for a future situation, to avoid intense reactions through visualization. This way, you will be better able to know what to do without being overwhelmed by your emotions.
Finally, knowing how to regulate one's emotions is therefore knowing how to reason and manage a situation of stress or boredom that usually leads, in the amorous setting, to infidelity.