Divorce is never an easy decision to make. We do not get along with the person we once loved so much, and the only way to end our suffering is, according to some, to end the relationship. Should we repeat the same mistakes with your future contender? Certainly not ! Here's what some divorced men advise you to do ...
When we have been with someone for a very long time, shared with him moments of absolute joy, but also moments of sadness and suffering, we often tell ourselves will have lived with him, and it would be impossible for us to relive such emotions with another person. Think again, because it sometimes happens that your plan of departure does not go as planned and that you are unfortunately (or fortunately) brought to divorce.
So, in order to do well and not relive such an experience that has certainly changed your lifestyle and pushed you to question the foundations of a life of a couple, the best would still be learn from your old mistakes to avoid reproducing them in the future with a new partner ...
Here is for you (gentlemen) some advice that your friends give you today about the behavior to have with your future companion, after divorced ...
1. Do not feel guilty
It is not unusual for some divorced men to feel guilty when they start dating other women after their divorce. Gentlemen, know that you have every right to flirt with other women and that it does not commit you to anything. Just do not repeat the same mistakes of the past if you think you have come across the right person after your divorce. On the contrary: rest assured, explain your situation and do not blame yourself for rebuilding your life. Remember that if you are no longer with your companion at the time, there is a reason!
2. Avoid the mistakes of the past
This is an important point to respect. If you do not want to relive the same experience, it is important that you be careful not to repeat the same mistakes of the past with your new partner. Rethink why you and your ex-partner have separated and try not to reproduce the same destructive pattern with your future conquests! So, take a step back, always!
3. Do not be afraid to take your time ...
It often happens that some divorced men, to forget some of their past failures in their personal lives (as married men), want to quickly couple up again, as if to prove to themselves that they are still able to seduce or to please ... Take all your time before embarking on a new love affair. By taking your time, you reduce the chances of reliving a new emotional failure. Be sure of your attentions towards the person in front of you and do not be afraid either to make him understand that you need to take your time, in order to better approach this new relation which is offered to you…
4. Leave yourself enough space in your relationship
This is probably the mistake that most couples commit the most ... When starting a relationship with someone, we quickly tend to want to spend all our time with the person we love, even if we forget that each of us needs to put some distance and needs to have his own space, and this, for the sake of the couple. To give time to oneself, to one's friends, to one's family, to one's passions and not to be stuck to one's partner all the time is a good way to preserve one's relationship, because you are not in a relationship of dependence where everyone both partners would feel that they can not survive without each other. So think of granting yourself moments alone, without your new partner, but also think of leaving her own space to her. She can only thank you.
5. Build together
Do not be afraid to trust the person you just met. We often lose confidence in ourselves after a break-up or after a divorce. It is therefore important that you relearn how to trust yourself but also to trust your new partner to start your relationship on a good basis. The important thing is also to be able to grow with the person who shares your life and to build you together, without it encroaching on your intimacy one and the other ...