An argument can be defined, of the most monumental simplicity, as an opposition of opinions or points of view. As paradoxical as it may seem, regular quarrels in a couple often reflect a great love. They express what the partners really think and reveal their true personality.
Relationships and disputes
Utopian or naive, we often tend to imagine that romantic relationships would look like a long honeymoon, that we spend our shared moments laughing, kissing and cuddling. These expectations explain the disappointment of many of us when confronted with the life of a couple and the reality of relationships. As a result, a moment of reflection is needed. We have to prepare ourselves psychically for the idea that everything is not going as well as we imagine it. In addition, it is essential to remember that concessions, compromises and sacrifices are the pilasters of a life together.
So even though relationships tend to be conflict-prone, ultimately they give rise to a stronger, larger couple. They are the result of an ongoing learning process.
In fact, according to a survey of married couples in India to find out how much the disputes affect the relationship, 44% of couples say that part of the success of their couple is due to the way they relate to each other. compete.
In this sense, a study of the University of Washington and the University of California-Berkeley on divorce shows that the common point between couples who have resisted separation are those who argue because they openly and honestly discuss their difficulties and their problems. Therefore, there are no unsaid within the couple and the solutions come from themselves.
Obviously, you have to be able to argue healthy. So to do this, here are some tips!
Some tips to better manage your couple quarrels
- Always be careful with your words as you may regret them bitterly.
- If you happen to discuss specific topics with your partner, stay with them and avoid getting lost in off-topic and past blame. Also, think of listening rather than looking for opportunities to make your point.
- If you feel upset, angry or embarrassed, be honest and let your partner know. Also, when you realize that you are irrational and illogical in your arguments, be prepared to admit that you are wrong.
- As the discussion progresses, your arguments may take on a personal character or become more destructive than constructive. If necessary, take a break and try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner, which will allow you to judge the situation from another angle.
- Learn to communicate openly with your partner and respect their views. You will never be happy together if you persist in seeing things in your own way and you are always looking to be right.
- Make sure your arguments are rational and well structured. And, if the subject of your dispute is particularly sensitive, do not be manipulated by your emotions (anger, sadness)!
- Finally, drive in a mature way to evolve your relationship in the right direction!