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Open Letter To The Next Who Will Pretend To Love Me

Open Letter To The Next Who Will Pretend To Love Me

You have not had much success in your relationships? Maybe because you blindly expect everyone to have good intentions and always see what is best in others. So it's time to approach things differently with anyone claiming to love you.

Your past mistakes
You have always thought of the good of your partners by telling you that one day they will be a better person. The problem is that this day has never happened. You have invested yourself body and soul thinking it was an investment in your future and your happiness. You thought that if you gave everything you could and that if you really showed that you are present for your partner, then when that day comes, it will give you back the same thing.

This is, however, the most stupid thing you can possibly do in a relationship.

Giving everything you have to someone and receiving nothing in return is exhausting. Relationships are based on giving and receiving, on compromise, support and communication. Your problem has been to constantly give and never receive. Even in family or friends, you always seem to care more about others than about yourself. And once you have nothing left to give, they no longer have any interest in you, and they leave. Unfortunately, that's the way things work for a lot of people.

You are a new person
Many times you have been used, lied to, manipulated and put in the background. But not anymore. You will not invest your time and energy in a relationship where the effort is not reciprocal. Cutting bridges with friends who only come back to you for their interest is also important.

From now on, you will not let anyone use you, and you can detect the signs of a manipulator. Certainly, you want to find someone who would like you unconditionally, but you do not have to look for anyone's attention. You must also let the other do a little effort for you. And by the time this person arrives, focus on improving yourself.

When this person arrives and wants to get involved in a serious and loving relationship with you, she will have to know this:

1. You are an independent person who makes a living, pays bills, and feels very lonely. You do not depend on anyone and that can be intimidating, but you are a person who wants to share something real and beautiful, and build a better future for two.

2. You think differently because you have been hurt in different ways in the past. It can be difficult for you to trust, but if that person tells you the truth, there will be no concern for the rest.

3. Do not expect too much from yourself. Even if you remain a person who likes to give, you are not going to lose yourself completely and be taken for granted again.

4. You always appreciate small gestures of delicacy. Acts that show that this person is thinking of you, and that you are an essential person in his life.

5. Even if you are aware that this person is not the same as others who have hurt you before, she will have to prove herself. It will have many walls to demolish. She will have to make a lot of effort to prove her good intentions. Of course if that person really wants you, she will.

6. If this person proves your worth to you, and you remove the walls that you have built around you, it should never jeopardize that, because it will surely be difficult for you to endure another injury.

7. Finally, this person will have to show you how much she cares about you, talk about the things she admires in you, and things you may be doing wrong so that you can fix them.
Open Letter To The Next Who Will Pretend To Love Me