It is not easy for a single mother to raise a child alone. As a result, she must assume all the roles; to give love and affection while imposing a certain authority, to assume a maternal and paternal role in order to ensure a psychic balance. An unmarried mother worries, asks herself some questions and wonders about the reliability of her education, especially when it comes to raising a son alone.
According to a study by IPSOS, a French survey company and international opinion marketing company, 42% of French people believe that single mothers have less ability to impose their authority on children, especially boys, and even to worry about their future; especially since this phenomenon is amplified when the financial situation of the mother is precarious.
According to the psychoanalyst, Pascal Couderc, we must stop assigning rigid roles and functions to parents. Previously, it was clearly attributed to the mother the traditional role of nanny and to the father that of authoritarian. These roles are changing and it is important to stop making women think that a boy who is growing up without his father will necessarily be a delinquent. Single mothers are quite capable of taking on both roles in order to inculcate in their child not only the notions of masculinity, masculinity, ambition, but also the qualities of heart, courage and presence.
If your son, who grew up today, becoming almost a man, does these 7 things regularly, then be sure you have achieved his education as a single mom.
1. He respects your feelings and your space
If after a discord, when you show your anger with tears, your son remains silent and does not try to deny or flee the situation, if he simply takes you in his arms and tries to enjoy a dinner calm with you, if he let you express your emotions without judging you, then you can be proud of him and his attitude because he respects you and respects your space.
2. He makes his bed in the morning.
If every morning he makes his bed and puts order in his room, it means that you instilled in him a discipline of autonomy and organization, that it is not the son to his mother, as say most. He also understood that by tidying up his bed daily, he will have to leave the past behind and start from scratch; it is a metaphor, certainly, but very revealing.
3. He uses his strength to help.
If he is there to help you in the difficult tasks of the house, to carry heavy things worthy of his musculature and do all the work that requires physical strength, just to serve you, that will mean that you have educated well.
4. He admits his mistakes.
As we live in a time of little morality and humility no longer matters, it would be comforting to see your son admit his mistakes when he commits it. The fact that he makes amends and learns from his mistakes is very promising.
5. When he frees his emotions.
At some family ceremonies, when you see your son moved to tears to be surrounded by his family and express great emotion, you will tell yourself that you have made this boy a man full of heart and compassion. A woman is always sensitive to a man who cries.
6. He closes the toilet lid.
At present, we live in a world where some men are so uneducated that they no longer make the effort to lift the toilet seat to urinate or to close the lid after finishing. If you see your son doing the opposite, it will mean that you taught him respect for others. That will mean that his future wife will not see this cliché also happen.
7. He has respect for remarkable women.
As you grow up, your son will model you, your courage and your determination. It is an example of the battle you have engaged in a world where man is omnipresent. He admires thanks to you all strong women who are like you. His attitude will reassure you and give you hope about the future generation. It will mean that you have made him a man who respects himself and who will respect all women. This will mean that you have managed your single mom fight.
