Your child does not obey you, breaks the rules, does it alone and constantly resists you? In short, is your child stubborn like a mule? Do not worry, this is not a fault. On the contrary, it's a good sign. According to a long American study, the professional success of an adult could be predicted as early as his pre-teen years.
According to a study published in the journal Developmental Psychology, a stubborn child would be more likely to succeed in his professional life. This long survey was conducted on 700 12-year-olds who were followed until the age of 52 years.
A stubborn child knows what he wants
According to Karen Lock Klop, "stubbornness is a good thing; you must never give up even when the situation is difficult. When a child is stubborn, he is determined, and will never let go, he is full of spirit and courage and wants to learn everything by himself.
His ambition and tenacity are essential for success. Stubbornness is part of perseverance. When your child refuses to go to bed early, it is not necessarily to annoy you because it simply does not want to sleep and has the courage to contradict you. A behavior that will guarantee a professional success.
A stubborn child asserts his personality regularly in front of others and in front of everything. This is how he grows up, explores his tastes and desires and, above all, affirms his difference.
Amazing results
According to the study of the 700 children, those who were stubborn in their pre-teen years better defended their interests, whether personal or professional. Thus, once they are adults, these self-motivated people have never been afraid to negotiate their salary or demand increases. They even went so far as to obtain senior positions from people who had been obedient and attentive.
Being stubborn is good, but ...
You have to know how to set limits when your child is stubborn. If you constantly surrender to his desires and desires, he will develop the feeling that everything is due to him and will be faced with disappointments later. Your child must win victories but also suffer failures. When you react, pay attention to your tone, stay calm and relaxed. Show your child that he can not handle you and that he will have to let go.
Be patient with your child's stubbornness. Make him feel listened to and above all, understood. Dr. Fran Walfish, a California-based family and relationship psychotherapist, explains that you need to "speak to the child in a meaningful way" so that you can identify your feelings so that you can develop your resilience and mental health skills. adaptation.
A stubborn child is a child with a strong character. When he feels compelled to submit to your will or that of another person, he feels that his integrity is being compromised.
If you think that obedience is one of the qualities that a child must have, then question yourself. The American writer Henry Louis Mencken said "Morality is to do what is right, no matter what you are told. Obedience is doing what you are told, no matter what is right.
Every parent wants to raise a responsible child who has the ability to cooperate and do things right, but remember that when you allow your child to choose, he or she will be happy to cooperate with you.
