Many people have seen loved ones leave for the afterlife, and most of the time it is difficult to accept seeing these people die. We remember her tears, but it's painful to accept this reality. A person with whom we saw ourselves living a lifetime disappears overnight as if it never existed.
Have you ever lost a loved one?
You probably try to believe in the famous clichés that circulate, that only the good ones die young and that God takes his favorites first, that the time of the deceased person has come and that everything is happening for a reason, in order to to comfort you.
But sometimes that attitude is no longer effective and all you feel is anger, lack and sadness.
The loss of loved ones hurts, because we love the time we spent with them, the memories we created with them, we love the happiness we shared together and we want them to be part of our lives .
You are angry that these people left leaving behind people who still needed their love, their presence, their hugs, and their help. These dead people worried about you more than they worried about themselves. Now you will give anything just to have a minute more with them.
You are also sad that good people are leaving this world because the goodness in their heart should have had more time to live.
You surely think that these people deserved better. That they deserved to live much more, and to see the people around them grow. For you, they deserve to grow old and die peacefully in their sleep after a long life.
They did not deserve to die
When they are very expensive people, many people think that they do not deserve to die, that they deserve to benefit more from their families and friends.
For the fathers, they deserved to accompany their daughters to the altar on the wedding day. For the mothers, they deserved to dance with their sons at their weddings. For the children, they deserve to grow, to live and to have a life like the others. For grandparents, they deserved to teach life to their grandchildren. For friends, they deserved to be present at every meeting.
It does not matter how many clichés exist about how everyone will have to live because they deserve it. Bad things will happen in life. And we must not give up and despair.
Be strong !
We must be strong for those we have lost. They are certainly always looking after us even after they leave. Those who love us never really leave us. We want to make them proud. We must show them that we will live with their memories and keep them in our hearts forever. We can not stop living our life. They will not want that for us, they will want to see us happy and live our lives as they should.
Celebrate their lives, do not focus on their death. Cherish their memories, perpetuate their heritage. Be grateful to have had the opportunity to learn from them and live life with them.
And while you are in mourning, always remember that:
1. Everyone treats death differently, do not compare your situation with others. Everyone has an experience of his own with death and the vision he has of it.
2. Open up and talk about it, but only when you are ready, the healing process begins when you talk about it.
3. Let yourself go, do not hold back your emotions. Never let anyone tell you that you can not cry or that you must not cry. To be grieved by the death of a loved one is natural.
4. Allow your friends to be there for you, you have people in your life who will be there for you, no matter what you live, you must give them the opportunity to help you get back on your feet.
5. Give yourself time to heal all your injuries. Time allows you to heal everything.
Although these dear people will always be missed, it is essential to go forward and accept that death is part of the cycle of life on earth, that we will all go there one day and that we would not like not to see our loved ones grieving over our death, we would rather see them live their lives fully.
