Parents may feel frustrated with the education of their children. In order not to be forced to resort to spanking and more severe punishments, some allow themselves to cry out after their children, thinking that they will listen to reason. However, doctors reveal that screaming regularly after a child can cause permanent damage to her or even affect her self-esteem.
Cries after the child and impact
Shouting after her child in a brutal and violent way can have consequences for her psychic development and her adult life. According to the interview of Dr. Gilles Lazimi, coordinator of the awareness campaign on "ordinary educational violence", "raising your voice can happen but in the long term it can have psychological consequences". On the other hand, a child imitates his parents and when he is an adult, he will reproduce the same pattern of education that they gave him, whether by shouting or physical violence, thinking that this is the best way to solve The problems.
In the same context, the Journal of Child Development (JCDS) published a study that explains the impact of regular cries on children's development: they generate feelings of anxiety and depression. Moreover, they will tend to develop a habit of screaming after other people or being shouted at it during adulthood.
Normally, the child should feel safe with his parents who provide him with everything he needs to lead a decent, harmonious and happy life. However, when he regularly suffers the screams and screams of his parents, the fear automatically settles to create a feeling of insecurity. Also, screaming after a child could change the neurological pathways of his brain by imprinting on his memory a sense of danger that will affect his personality, especially in his adult life.
Best approach to the child
According to Dr. Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale, the best method of educating your child is to choose calm and self-control. Also, a restraint-weighted conversation would be the best approach. The key is to be authoritative and stay factual while making your child understand what he has done wrong.
If he admits his wrong and tries to remedy it, congratulating him would be the best way to reward him. Otherwise, it is best to inflict punishment without resorting to aggression.
Also, reprimanding a child from time to time is not a fatality in itself so that he is aware of the seriousness of his act, provided that it does not become recurrent and does not produce an irreversible effect on his psychology.
Tips for being obeyed by your child without aggressiveness
Although most of the time you try to manage your anger and ban yells, sometimes your patience reaches its limits.
When speaking to your child, it is advisable to always use the "I" instead of the "you". Thus it is possible to tell him "I am happy when I see you put away your things" instead of "you never tidy up your things", in order to avoid putting him all the time on the dock.
You must use the credible tone and be convinced of the request you make to your child.
If it is time to eat and your child is still not at the table after calling, it is advisable to use the technique of 1, 2, 3 stating that you do not ask for things 3 time and that the last will be synonymous with sanction. So you give your child a chance to obey.
