In our societies, there are sometimes very curious people who want at all costs to know the smallest details about the life and the choices of all the people they meet. They therefore allow themselves to ask very personal questions to others without worrying about the impact they will have on their emotions, and among these personal questions that must always be avoided, we find: Why do not you still have no children? Read the moving message from this Australian blogger who explains why you should never ask this question to a couple.
A few months ago, the viral message of Adele Barbaro, an Australian blogger who tells her story with infertility went around the web, and was shared by hundreds of Internet users around the world. In her message, the young woman explains how badly she felt when others asked her why she did not have children, as well as the reasons why everyone should stop asking couples this question. His poignant testimony will bring tears to your eyes.
Stop asking couples when they will have children!
"We just got married", "We want to travel before we have kids", or "We prefer to give more time to our careers ..." Here are my answers when someone asked me why I still had no children children.
People told me that I would not always be young, and the older I get, the harder it becomes for me to get pregnant. But all that, I knew it, I did not need to be told. Putting a child into the world is not easy, and all people with infertility disorders will tell you, and I was one of those people.
I remember very well that day when I was coming out of the doctor, convinced that I would never have children, but my husband continued to comfort me and to tell me that everything will be fine, we had also considered adopt children, and the doctors told us that we had a long way to go if we wanted to have children.
When I saw my friends getting pregnant, I was happy for them, but deep down I felt bad, I even started to avoid baby birthdays, and all the similar events, I was so depressed and desperate . But one day, before going to work, I did a pregnancy test and found out that I was pregnant, my husband was so happy, and it was one of the happiest days of my life .
I was fortunate to have a child, but many couples do not succeed despite all the efforts they provide. There are also people who simply do not want to have children, and others who want to have children but can not because they do not have the financial means to support themselves. So the next time you see a couple who does not have children, do not ask them why, you probably do not know what's going on in their life.
What are the reasons that can encourage a couple not to have children:
For the most curious among you, here is a non-exhaustive list of different answers to the famous question: "Why do not you still have children? »:
- We just do not want to have children.
- We lost our first child, and we are afraid of experiencing the same tragedy.
- We do not have the means to support a child.
- We are sterile, and we fail to conceive a child.
- We do not have time to take care of a child.
- We do not consider ourselves able to raise a child in good conditions.
- We have an inherited or infectious disease, and we are afraid to pass it on to our child.
- We want to spend more time on our career and hobbies.
- We do not have enough space in our house.
- We wish to have a child, but we prefer to wait a few years.
- We do not like taking care of children.
- We want to sleep at least 8 hours a day, and we do not want to spend sleepless nights because of a child.
- We do not want to answer your question, go satisfy your curiosity elsewhere.
