Parents try to provide the best possible education for their children from a very young age. Thus, they follow the advice of some experts and seek to instil good behavior in the little ones. However, most parents think that it is better to let the child sleep alone so that he can become independent. But according to scientists, quoted by The Sun, lying down with the little ones until they fall asleep is a good habit.
Many adults are influenced by certain misconceptions about the good upbringing of their toddlers. As a result, they end up taking action, against their will, to ensure optimal growth for their children. Among these false beliefs, we find that of leaving the child alone in bed at night, until he falls asleep.
Thus, whether agitated, fearful or in demand, parents should not intervene and let him calm down alone. But the experts seem convinced that the child needs this parental presence to sleep.
A social context that disrupts parents' relationship with the child
Many parents today work and do not spend enough time with their children. In addition, they are enrolled very early in the nursery and spend most of their days there. In addition, other parents opt for nannies to ensure their children a constant presence. But what if you were told that the only real presence they needed was yours?
The parental bond: an important path for the child
According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a professor of psychological and brain sciences, parental attachment promotes psychic and social development of the child. For example, she says that a parent's behavior toward their child will have a significant impact on their future life. Some parents decide not to respond to the signals from the children. But for the professor, the care of infants must be based on 4 key principles:
The co-dodo
Sleeping in the same room as babies or even on the same bed can strengthen the parent-child bond and provide many benefits. To do this, it is advisable to align the schedules of parents to those of infants.
Food on demand
When the baby claims to eat, it is necessary to respond to his request. Indeed, this will allow the child to listen to his feelings of hunger and satiety. Thus, by adjusting the food clock, the baby will be able to wean itself automatically from breastfeeding.
Physical contact and porting
The baby requires a lot of affection and love throughout his development. As a result, parents must make regular physical contact, by taking it in their arms and wearing it at times.
The responsiveness to tears and cries
Some parents decide not to react to the baby's cries to teach him to calm down on his own. Unfortunately, this behavior can make the baby anxious and push him to cry more and more loudly. Thus, parents are invited to intervene as soon as the baby starts to cry to reassure him and mitigate his "crisis".
Co sleeping to ensure optimal well-being
Generally, parents do what they feel is best to ensure their children's well-being and well-being. However, the human being is subject to emotions that can sometimes be devastating. In a study by Patrice Marie Miller and Michel Lamport Communes, a professor at Harvard Medical School, we discover that certain emotions that children can feel can have serious consequences. Indeed, some infants feel fear, stress or anger if they do not feel attachment to their parents. However, these emotional states, felt chronically, can affect the cognitive faculties of the child to the point of causing mental disorders in certain situations. For example, the parental attachment approach of lying close to the baby or in the same room alleviates these negative emotions.
Controversial opinions
Although some advise to share this special moment with the child, others warn against the practice of the co-sleeping. Here are the disadvantages reported by the experts:
- A risk of suffocation: the adult can, in a deep sleep, lean against the child and choke him. In addition, sheets, quilts and pillow are all elements that carry a risk of choking for the infant. It is therefore advisable to let him sleep in a bed adapted to his age.
- Poor sleep: whether for parents or babies, co-sleeping can lead to disturbed sleep because of baby crying or adult snoring
- A lack of autonomy for the baby: if the baby gets used to the presence of his parents, he will have a hard time getting away from it later