We have all suffered from having known a person who constantly uses lies. Whether it is to improve their image or to avoid the consequences of their actions, pathological liars have no qualms about distorting the reality in their favor, thus disregarding the honesty and integrity that belongs to a healthy friendship. While the reasons for this tendency to be misleading may be motivated by a troubled past, other motivations may sometimes encourage liars to mislead us and to constantly mislead us.
Far from being a natural determinism, we learn to lie from childhood to avoid the consequences of our actions. After this age, some people still retain this strong propensity to distort reality, sometimes almost pathologically. Discover the reasons behind this dishonest and toxic behavior.
To clear the consequences of his actions
The main reason behind the lie is that some people are afraid to face the consequences of their actions. By dishonesty or fear of being confronted, some liars do not hesitate to foment the worst excuses to be released from a cowardly behavior which would be likely to compromise a relation. Those who lie often want to escape the reactions of a person who could punish them by cutting short their toxic behaviors.
To have social approval
To shine in society, some individuals have no qualms about lying. They can create an interesting story from scratch to make their loved ones feel like they have an exciting life full of twists and turns. Pushed to the extreme, this propensity can be unhealthy and push their entourage to be constantly suspicious.
To belong to a group
To feel recognized by society, some do not hesitate to disguise their individuality to look like the people around them. Worse still, pathological liars can get higher by claiming better qualities than their friends or relatives. This propensity often reflects a lack of self-confidence and a profound difficulty in asserting oneself as a single individual.
For opportunistic reasons
Some people do not hesitate to plan the worst stratagems in order to earn money or to reach a social position. They will have no remorse to walk on the flower beds of a person who cherishes them only to reach their goal. These individuals do not think they can achieve their aspirations in accordance with values of integrity and honesty.
To belittle others
In order to integrate and give an impression of superiority, pathological liars have no qualms about peddling slanders and odious rumors about their peers. It's their way of feeling valued and establishing their leadership position in a social group.
To protect someone
Some people mistakenly think of sparing a disappointment to a loved one by lying to him. Except that a lie is always toxic in a relationship, even if it meets the most noble intentions. Once pierced, this one can be at the origin of a constant feeling of suspicion in friendship as in love.
They believe in their lie
When the lie is almost instinctive, a curious phenomenon occurs. The pathological liar is convinced that the fictional story he tells is an integral part of his personality as he repeats it. Consequence: when they master the novel they are created around their personality, it becomes more difficult to break through.
They are demanding of themselves
In a perpetual concern for performance, unhealthy liars fill their lack of self-esteem by attributing to themselves qualities that do not belong to them. They are so afraid of not deserving what happens to them that they feel compelled to act imposter.
They feel trapped by their lies
Even if a liar wants to repent or redeem himself, he may be stuck in a woven web of lies. It is this fear that bog them into this behavior because once they have revealed their actions, they will expose themselves to the risk of being abandoned.
They feel the masters of the situation
The lie has similar characteristics to the addiction, where the addict is misled into the impression that he will always be able to cope when he makes this decision. Yet this impression of escaping the consequences of lying is only a false illusion.
They need to have your trust
If liars adopt such behaviors, it is mainly because they need to feel that their loved ones trust them unconditionally. To feel recognized as special individuals, they will have no trouble making empty promises and disappointing you when the time comes.
They convince themselves with their lies
For some pathological liars, lying is a way to self-persuade qualities from their imagination. Once they utter their words, they materialize it into reality and are persuaded of the story they are inventing.