Narcissism is a very unique personality disorder. Here's how the narcissist manipulates his victims to pretend to be someone good. Imbued with their person, egocentric and insensitive to the emotions of others, narcissists represent almost 3% of the world population. Caught in their own game, these outstanding perverts react according to very specific mechanisms to destroy the people around them. But their well-developed strategies sometimes go unnoticed, allowing them to drown their victims in a veritable abyss of toxicity.
A spouse, parent, child or even a child can turn out to be narcissistic perverts. These born manipulators can display an ambivalence and a very disturbing character instability. But generally, the psychological violence perpetrated by these perverse personalities takes place behind closed doors, thus preventing the victims from spreading their suffering out into the open. Nonetheless, narcissists respond to certain singular characteristics which can help to make a diagnosis.
The origin of the disorder
This characterized disorder has its origins in Greek mythology. Son of a god and a nymph, Narcissus was of dazzling beauty. But on the day of his birth, his mother was ordered never to let him see his face, so that he could live as long as possible. Thus, the child grew up in ignorance of his physical attributes but aroused the admiration of all women. One day, Narcisse repulsed Echo, a nymph who coveted him.
Eager for revenge, the Gods then made man see his face. Thirsty, Narcissus saw his reflection for the first time when he wanted to drink water from a spring. Thus, the man fell madly in love with his person, whom he could not stop admiring, until he headed for ruin.
How to spot perverts narcissistic?
Narcissistic perverts use their natural charm to seduce and attract their victims. When they feel they can operate their destructive strategy, they engage in a toxic game. According to Bill Eddy, a therapist specializing in the management of this disorder, we can recognize it by identifying certain mechanisms. Indeed, the narcissistic perverts react by using singular behaviors and words to provoke particular emotions in the victims.
Their operating mode
Seduce
Initially, perverts want to exercise their power of seduction by all means. Thus, they will use sweet and promising words and cover their victims with compliments. "You are the best thing that ever happened to me in life", "I will treat you like a princess until the end of my days", or "I regret all the time I spent without knowing you" are as many sentences that the narcissistic perverts use to fool their victims.
Degrading without remorse
On the other hand, perverts use excessively negative words to characterize certain people and put themselves forward at the same time. "He doesn't see how much he needs me", "I can't wait to humiliate him" or "he's worth nothing".
Ruthlessly dominate
In addition, these malicious characters tend to evoke their desire to dominate others without any remorse. In reality, they have no empathy and can deviate from moral values without any remorse. This mania also results in a lack of interest and insensitivity to the emotions of others.
Victimization
Sometimes perverts also display victim behavior, especially when injured in their ego. Thus, they can be dishonest to make others feel guilty.
Emotions that victims experience
Charmed
At first, the victims quickly fall into the narcissistic net. They can feel confident and give themselves up body and soul in this relationship which seems promising to them.
Underestimated
Very quickly, positive emotions give way to a lack of self-confidence and a fear of disappointing others. Sometimes victims may feel oppressed by the evil's psychological grip.
The behavior of narcissistic perverts
Lie and manipulation
Narcissistic perverts have no ethics and can lie easily. Indeed, their actions reflect their intentions much more than their words. So you can't trust what they say to manipulate others but what their behavior really inspires.
Guilt
Narcissists never take responsibility for their mistakes and have no tolerance for frustration. As a result, they spread their anger on a third person to whom they will blame all their failures.
Sabotage
By exercising a chronic hold over a loved one, these narcissists resort to psychological mechanisms of humiliation and degradation.