Several surveys have shown that the number of people who have already been in infidelity affair during their lifetime has risen steadily over the last 40 years. This act, considered for the most part as treason, has disastrous consequences for the personal life of the spouses and also for the lives of the children who are part of family life. The tendency has always been to believe that it is men who are unfaithful, but we are seeing an increasing number of women who, although in couples, have extramarital relationships. What can make them do this?
6 main causes of women's adultery
1. They are choking and bored because of the routine
Because of the tasks of daily living in the home and office, a routine can easily settle and push the woman to look for another lifestyle, another passion, or new habits that would make her life sparkling.
2. They feel incompatible with their partner and are therefore dissatisfied
A woman may feel incompatible with her man who can not handle her desires and libido. To escape this incompatibility, she can accept another relationship.
3. They have a higher libido than their partner
Some women have very regular cravings to make love and do not dare to talk about their high libido with their partner. So to satisfy their quest for pleasure, they can put themselves in the arms of another.
4. They desire multiple relationships
They would like to be in many different relationships at the same time, but would not like to declare themselves openly polygamous or would not like to end their marital commitment.
5. They do not feel emotionally close to their partner
When a woman feels that her partner is not listening when it comes to her emotional problems, she may become physically distant. She will then seek to fill this emotional need in another relationship.
6. They want revenge for their partner's adultery
If a woman has already been cheated by her partner, she can sometimes be unfaithful to cause the same suffering to the one who betrayed her before.
According to psychologists, adultery is the consequence of an unhappiness and a problem with oneself. In general, a person looking for another partner seeks to fill a need in a certain way. By dint of being pushed by the desires impulses, some partners forget the repercussions that this act could have on their life and that of their close entourage.
Consequences of Adultery
1. Torque level
After a case of adultery, a feeling of betrayal can arise in the heart of the spouse who has been offended. These thoughts can monopolize him to the point of pushing him to depression or permanent anger. Some couples do not dare to divorce either because of a religious or social taboo or because the spouses do not want to lose their comfort of life (financial comfort or habits of daily life). But even if the partners agree to stay in a relationship, lack of trust, suspicion, frustration are feelings that arise and that pollute the atmosphere of the couple.
2. Divorced
In some cases, the couple separates. This is even more difficult when there are children who have to undergo this separation. Some partners may want to take revenge on their spouses by preventing them from seeing children or by raising children against the partner at fault.
Possible consequences on children
- Once adults, children sometimes become cheaters
- They live the worst sort of betrayal that a human being can experience
- They develop an excessive fear of abandonment
- They learn to be wary of everyone
- Sequelae remain forever
In order to better preserve your life as a couple, here are some tips to avoid falling into adultery:
Some tips for you ladies!
- Learn to know yourself
- Be sure to communicate with your partner about your desires, needs and limitations
- Do not play the role of "mom" in the relationship
- If you have settled into a routine, make sure you fix it by finding entertaining activities that you can do at two
- If you're not really compatible with your partner, talk to them directly
- Finally, if you find that the relationship can not succeed, have the courage to stop it.