A healthy and stable relationship is based on love, communication, complicity, respect and fidelity. Only, some people, for multiple reasons, do not respect this last notion. To understand what drives them to deceive their partner, here are 5 most common traits found among infidels.
5 common traits of adultery
1. They feel insecure
This seems a little contradictory to their nature but the infidels are really unsure of them. It goes further in their past, probably because of the pain they have endured for a time, that they have internalized, and that they finally pass on their partners. They can be very attractive with a range of other traits that are very attractive, but because of this insecurity, they can become unfaithful because they feel they do not deserve you and are sure you will leave them soon. So what does it lead to? Self-destruction. To deceive for them is a way of never feeling alone and a way to escape the fear of being left behind.
2. They are very attractive
This is not new: physical attraction is the best way in which unbelievers maintain a significant number of victims. Studies show that women are more sensitive to this than men because they are more likely to deceive based on their physical attractiveness. For an infidel, his physical attractiveness is his greatest asset.
3. They are always in the seduction
No matter how much it hides it, the unfaithful person will display flirtatious behaviors at some point in the relationship. The source of this situation is jealousy, insecurity and the need for attention. Worse still, an unfaithful will flirt in front of his partner and take it as a harmless pleasure. This kind of behavior reveals sociopathic tendencies, that is to say a person who does not submit to any ethics of society.
4. They are too dependent
Unfaithful people want your time, money, attention, energy, affection or a combination of these in excess. If you do not give them all this, they act to get it. By acting, they use manipulative tactics to get what they want. No matter what you do for that person, she will never be satisfied and you will discover that she has deceived you sooner or later. When you ask her the reason for her behavior, she will blame you for not doing certain things.
5. They idolize an unfaithful way of life
They seem to have little interest in couple life and stable relationships For them fidelity is a concept they do not adhere to. They will push things even further and instead of working to stabilize the relationship when conflicts and problems arise, they will jump into the arms of another person with whom they feel comfortable.
Why are some people unfaithful?
It's in their genes
Researchers at the State University of New York have conducted a study that says the infidelity gene does exist. This gene stimulates the production of dopamine and therefore the sensation of pleasure. The latter is a neurotransmitter that plays an important role in the reward system and addiction. This gene actually explains the attraction for new social relationships and the desire to multiply conquests.
They are narcissistic
Narcissistic people usually lure their victims into complex and emotionally violent networks and then make them suffer. Because the narcissists do not really care about others, they use them and abuse them without remorse, being among others unfaithful.
A recent study, published, researchers analyzed data from 123 married couples in two longitudinal studies: participants answered questions about their marriage every six months for the first four years of life. followed the wedding. Questions were designed to target the 4 components of the narcissistic trait, including: Omnipotence, Omnivore, Omniscience, and Omnipresence. This research has shown a correlation, not causality, between narcissism and deception.
Finally, no one is purely libertine or purely monogamous. All we are is a combination of our genetics and our environment. There is a large margin of variation, and this variation will depend on our education, our experience, our development and our free will.