When asking an individual to define what friendship is, he will automatically answer that it is the sharing of humor, confidences and complicity with a person but it is also the confidence that he grant him. However, a friendship can begin long before these things really happen. At the first meeting, we feel a friendly bond that is woven without knowing how; it's about love at first sight.
How to explain the love at first sight?
At first glance, a spark can occur between two people and a complicity can arise between them. The first impression one has of someone is sometimes enough to detect the outbreak of a friendship.
Moreover, according to a study published by Association for Psychological Science, the judgment we make on a person after seeing his face, occurs in a tenth of a second. Also, we are likely to have a perception of a person we meet at first, based on the appearance of his face, whether it is attractive, mature sympathetic, reliable, gentle or aggressive.
Moreover, in a study published by Nature Neuroscience, the research focused on identifying two areas of the brain that trigger when a new person meets. Thus, we have the area of the brain that processes emotions, called "amygdala" and the other area related to memory, called "posterior cingulate cortex" (CCP) that allows you to make decisions and value what surrounds us. As Karla Starr, an editor at Psychology Today, puts it, this second part of the cortex allows us to make the decision to refer to a person or not.
Also, the question that arises during a new meeting is to know if this person is able to be our friendly soul mate, to understand us, to support us and to have fun with us without judging us. Thus, at first glance we can collect this information to find out if it meets our needs. The posterior cingulate cortex (CCP) and amygdala sort out important information and summarize it as a first impression.
In addition, according to Kelly Campbell, professor of psychology at California State University in San Bernardino, women have learned since childhood to socialize with their emotions and men to ignore them. But the chemistry of friendship is an emotional reaction that includes intuition. It can not in any case be based on the cognitive reasoning that requires reflection and rationalization. As a result, the first impression seems to be unshakable.
Can friendly love at first sight last in time?
When we become friends with someone we meet at first glance and feel the chemistry operate, we deduce that our intuition was not misleading. However, in a study by Michael Sunnafrank, professor of communication at the University of Minnesota, the friendship relationship can not be based solely on intuition; the two friendly partners make decisions during their relationship to determine the long-term outcome of their friendship. Also, everything depends on the intention given to this friendship. And as Sunnafrank says, "what really happens here is a self-fulfilling prophecy." If we expect this friendship to be positive, we will make sure that it goes in that direction, but if we do not express the desire or intention that it will succeed, we will do everything to ensure that it does not happen. do not evolve and do not flourish.
Thus, any individual in search of a sincere and enriching friendship will form friendly relationships that will meet his needs. And every human being is likely to wait for a sincere sharing with a person and to weave a real bond of friendship in order to be able to invest emotionally with it.
